Compersion: The Sacred Art of Thriving in Someone Else’s Joy 🌺

There’s a word we didn’t grow up hearing—not in our homes, not in our churches, not in the culture of one-size-fits-all love:

Compersion.

It’s often described as the opposite of jealousy—the warm, expansive feeling you get when someone you love experiences joy, pleasure, or love… even if it’s not with you. 🌀

But that’s only the beginning.

To us, compersion isn’t just a term from the world of ethical non-monogamy. It’s a spiritual technology. A relational superpower. A deep and holy practice that reshapes our nervous systems and rewrites our stories about love, ownership, and worthiness.

💞 Beyond Jealousy, Toward Expansion

Jealousy is human. Let’s start there. It’s not wrong. It’s not a flaw. It’s a part of us that’s trying to protect connection, safety, or identity. But compersion invites us to expand, not contract.

It says:"Their joy is not a threat to mine.""Their connection doesn’t diminish my value.""Love is not a pie with limited slices—it’s an ocean with no shoreline."

Compersion teaches us to stay open-hearted even when our egos feel wobbly. It invites us into a frequency of love that’s not possessive, not afraid, not performance-based. That is powerful. And vulnerable. And yes—learned through practice.

🕊️ Compersion Is Not Bypassing

Let’s be real—compersion isn’t some fluffy utopia where you never feel hurt or insecure. That’s spiritual bypassing.

Real compersion is a choice we make inside the ache.It’s the sacred “yes” that comes even when your inner child is kicking and screaming.It’s the deep breath before saying, "I see you loving someone else, and while my stuff is coming up, I can still find joy in your joy."

This is soul-level courage. 💗

It doesn’t erase the grief, it holds it with tenderness. It says,"I’m still healing, and I’m still happy for you."That’s not weakness. That’s sacred maturity.

🌙 The Spiritual Practice of Compersion

Spiritually, compersion asks us to release the illusion of control and enter the mystery of love as something shared, not owned. It’s trust in motion. It’s surrender with a heartbeat. It’s an embodied knowing that connection doesn’t have to be exclusive to be meaningful.

In fact, it often becomes more meaningful when it’s freely chosen.

To love someone in their freedom—to support their pleasure, their aliveness, their healing, even when it doesn’t center you—is to participate in something divine. ✨

That’s compersion. And it is holy ground.

💫 From Our Hearts to Yours

In our throuple—Kami, Trent & Nita—compersion has become a kind of spiritual ceremony. It’s not always easy. Sometimes it stings. But again and again, we come back to the question:

Can I love you in your fullness—even when I’m not at the center of it?

When the answer is yes, something transcendent happens. The love between us doesn’t shrink. It expands. It becomes more whole. More honest. More deeply rooted in freedom.

And that’s the kind of love we’re here for.

🪞Reflection Prompts

• What comes up for me when I imagine my partner feeling love or pleasure with someone else?

• Where have I experienced compersion in small or surprising ways (even outside of romantic relationships)?

• What would it feel like to celebrate someone else’s joy, even when I’m not part of it?

• How do I honor my jealous parts without letting them drive my decisions?

🔥 Empowering Truths

• I can feel jealousy and still choose love.

• My love is big enough to hold space for others to thrive.

• I release the belief that love must be exclusive to be meaningful.

• Compersion is not about perfection—it’s about presence.

• I am becoming the kind of person who celebrates love in all its forms.