Holding Our Insecurities with Sacred Hands 🌿💔

How to move from fear to self-trust in expansive love

Let’s be real: even the most confident, self-aware humans have days when insecurity shows up like an uninvited guest.Whispers of not-enoughness. Flickers of jealousy. The ache of being too much—or not quite enough.

It’s so tempting to push those feelings away.To shame them, to spiritualize them, to pretend we’ve evolved beyond them.

But what if we stopped treating insecurity as a flaw…and started holding it as a sacred teacher?

🌊 Insecurity Is a Messenger, Not a Mistake

Insecurity isn’t proof that we’re broken.It’s often the voice of our inner child—wounded, protective, and terrified of abandonment.It might be echoing a past betrayal, a deeply conditioned story, or a moment when we felt unseen and unchosen.

Especially in ethical non-monogamy, where comparison can easily sneak in, insecurity might say things like:

• “What if they love her more than me?”

• “What if I’m replaceable?”

• “What if they only want me when I’m perfect?”

These questions feel so real—because they’re rooted in our deepest desire to be safe, to belong, to be loved fully and without condition.

But here’s the healing truth:Insecurity isn’t something to fix—it’s something to witness with compassion. 🫶

🔥 When We Don’t Name It, It Owns Us

Unspoken insecurities don’t go away—they morph into defensiveness, withdrawal, resentment, or control.But when we name them—gently, courageously—they lose their grip.

Try saying:

“Something in me is feeling scared right now.”“I’m noticing an old wound around being enough is showing up.”“I want to trust this, and I also need some reassurance in this moment.”

This isn’t weakness—it’s relational maturity.It’s choosing honesty over armor. Intimacy over performance.

💫 Practices for Meeting Insecurity with Love

🪞 1. Tend to the root, not just the trigger

Ask yourself: Where have I felt this before?What story is insecurity telling me—and is it true in this moment?Often, insecurity borrows voices from the past. When you can identify the source, you can begin to unhook from the lie.

✍️ 2. Journal with your insecurity like it’s a scared child

Write a dialogue between you and the part of you that’s afraid. Let it speak. Don’t silence it—soothe it.

“What are you afraid of?”“What do you need from me?”“How can I love you through this?”

Treating that voice like a sacred inner part—not a problem—shifts everything.

🤝 3. Communicate your needs with courage and care

It’s okay to say:

“Can you help me feel secure in this connection?”“I’m not asking you to fix me—I just want to be seen right now.”

Being met in that place can be incredibly healing. But it starts with giving yourself permission to feel.

🧘‍♀️ 4. Cultivate self-trust through embodiment

Regulate your nervous system. Ground yourself in the present. Remind your body that it is safe.You are not the wounded part—you are the one who’s holding it. That’s power. That’s healing. That’s sovereignty.

🪶 Reflection Prompts

• What triggers my insecurities most often in relationships?

• What is the story behind that insecurity—and is it true?

• How do I typically react when I feel insecure? What does that part of me need instead?

• What practices help me reconnect with my inner safety and truth?

💎 Empowering Truths

• I am not my insecurity—I am the one who witnesses and holds it with love.

• I am safe to feel, to question, and to grow.

• I don’t have to be perfect to be worthy of love.

• My relationships thrive when I bring my whole self, even the tender parts.

• I trust myself to move through discomfort with compassion and truth. 🌱

Dear one, your insecurity is not evidence of failure—it’s evidence of feeling deeply.And when we can sit with our wounds without abandoning ourselves, we don’t just become better partners… we become more whole humans.