🌍❤️Why We’re So Public — And Why We Won’t Apologize for It
- powerthrouple33
- Aug 14, 2025
- 2 min read
I get this question a lot:“Why share so much? Why not just keep it private?”
I understand the wondering.
For generations, we’ve been told to keep our “mess” behind closed doors.
To protect the family name and image.
To keep anything that might be misunderstood under wraps.
To smile, nod, and offer the polished version of our lives —
especially if it’s complicated, unconventional, or challenges the status quo.
🕊️I Used to Live That Way
I lived decades of my life making sure the outside looked fine while the inside was breaking.
I carried deep grief, spiritual abuse, and an aching desire for freedom — all in silence.
Here’s what I learned: silence doesn’t protect you.
It isolates you.
It feeds shame.
It deepens loneliness.
And it teaches you to disappear in your own life.
When our son Cole got sick and we lost him, I realized something:
I didn’t want the rest of my life to be defined by what I couldn’t say.
I didn’t want other people telling my story in ways that erased my heart, my choices, and my truth.
🌟Why I Share
I share because secrecy feeds shame.
I share because my story has been twisted when told by others.
I share because someone out there is living the same questions, grief, or longing —
and thinks they’re the only one.
Going public is not rebellion; it’s repair.
Repair for all the years I stayed small to keep other people comfortable.
Repair for the younger versions of me who never saw women living fully in their own skin.
Repair for the countless people still trapped in systems that demand they choose between belonging and being themselves.
💡Love Deserves Light
Our marriage, our love with Nita, our spiritual deconstruction, our joy in ethical non-monogamy — these are not shameful.
They are sacred parts of our story.
And sacred things deserve light, not secrecy.
We are public because someone has to show what healthy, ethical, unconventional love can look like.
Someone has to say out loud that joy after loss is not betrayal.
That healing after harm is possible.
That living truthfully is worth the cost — even if it’s misunderstood.
❤️🔥This Isn’t About Attention
It’s about connection.
It’s about making the path less lonely for whoever comes after us.
It’s about giving language and hope to the ones still searching for themselves.
It’s about breaking the cycle so that no one has to spend decades wondering if their truth is too much to be loved.
We’ve already lived through silence.
Now we’re choosing truth.
And we’re not apologizing for it.
💭 Reflection Question:
What’s one part of your truth you’ve kept hidden because you feared how it might be received?
What would it feel like to let even a sliver of light touch it?
✨ Truth Statement:
My truth is not too much.
My story is not too messy.
My life is worthy of light.
🔥Fierce & Unapologetic,
— Kami
"I’ve already survived silence. Now I’m here to live in the light."
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